Daily mindfulness exercises like my Grandpa did

daily meditation exercises, taught in my Grandpa’s own way

As a kid growing up in North Alabama, I would spend part of each summer staying at my grandparents home. Loved it there because Grandpa owned a grocery store/gas station and all of us cousins descended on the place each summer. We played, fought and lived. Along the way, Granny and Grandpa taught us the value of hard work, fun and family. And I learned daily meditation exercises, taught in my Grandpa’s own way.

I never really considered Grandpa to be an “Enlightened One” or a guru. He wore bib overalls with a white button down shirt, drove a old pickup, and could never be mistaken for anything except a Southerner. But after all these years I have come to believe he was a Mindfulnes master in disguise. I never saw him angry or upset, never saw him surprised by anything. He always gave thanks for what he had and never coveted the material things in life for himself.

I think you would have liked him too.

What is meditation or mindfullness?

Meditation can be defined as a practice where an individual focuses their mind. Mindfulness is a method of handling emotions by paying
attention to them. I use the terms interchangeably and think of them as the same. Meditation is a practice where an individual focuses their mind on a
particular object, thought or activity to achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state and may be used to reduce stress, anxiety, depression,
and pain. It may be done while sitting, repeating a mantra, closing the eyes in a quiet environment and even while walking.

Mindfulness is an amazing tool for stress management and overall wellness because it can be used at virtually any time and can quickly
bring lasting results. It takes practice and trial-and-error to incorporate into your everyday life, but the benefits are well worth the effort.

Tips

Clearing the mind is very difficult. Some recommend not to expect a clear mind, but to allow the thoughts to just pass without acknowledgement.
Unwanted thoughts will, over time, diminish.

Give it time and take your time. Meditation takes practice and a lot of it.

If you’re expecting to do it ‘perfectly’, you may actually create more stress. There is no ‘perfect’ meditation session.

Start small and work up to longer sessions.  Begin with a short session of 5 minutes. After you are comfortable, move to 10 or 15 minutes until you are comfortable meditating for 30-minute sessions.

daily meditation exercises, taught in my Grandpa’s own way

With practice and time, meditation becomes easier and more effective. You will feel relaxed and refreshed, ready for the rest of your day.

Track your time and set goals. It is easy to lose track of time while meditating and two minutes can seem like an eternity when you are just beginning. This can cause you to worry and have thoughts like “Is my time up?” or “Have I meditated long enough?” Those thoughts defeat the purpose of clearing your mind.

You may want to set a timer. Use an app on your phone and set it for the amount of time you want to meditate. Be sure to use a gentle tone or set it to vibrate, then turn off the screen and relax.

With practice, you may eventually find yourself saying “Wow, that was 10 minutes? I could go longer!” When you are comfortable, skip the timer and allow your meditations to last as long as desired.

Exercises

Mindfulness is a powerful approach to living fully in the present moment. Through practical meditative exercises, you can learn to experience total consciousness in the here and now.

One of the great mindfulness teachers is Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh, known to his students as “Thay,” for his down-to-earth approach to concepts like enlightenment and freedom of the mind. I think my Grandpa would have agreed with his teachings.

Thay’s exercises for mindfulness in everyday life.

1. Mindful Breathing. Thich Nhat Hanh advises students to begin with the most essential life process – our breathing. He asks that each person pay attention to the in-breath and the out-breath – using each to cultivate a feeling of joy in being alive and able to breathe.

Grandpa’s exercise: “Son, just breath. Its all we need to do”

2. Concentration. He next suggests going deeply within the process of breathing, following in-breath and out-breath fully until no other thoughts are present.

Grandpa’s exercise: “Son, don’t think, just do it.”

3. Awareness of the Body. The third exercise involves shifting awareness from the breath to the entire body making that breath:
“Breathing in, I am aware of my body. Breathing out, I am aware of my body… Mind and body become one reality”

Grandpa’s exercise: “Son, watch yourself”

4. Releasing Tension. Thich Nhat Hanh uses the fourth exercise to address feelings of anxious tension that we might not have noticed before
mindfulness practice.

Grandpa’s exercise: “Son, just relax and hold on”

daily meditation exercises, taught in my Grandpa’s own way

5. Walking Meditation. Finally, Thich Nhat Hanh descends upon a favorite exercise and personal pastime – walking meditation. “You don’t have to make any effort during walking meditation, because it is enjoyable. “

Grandpa’s exercise: “Son, go get me…”

Music

Listen to sounds in a non-judgmental way. Just tune your ears to sounds and not judge them based on thoughts of past experiences.

Choose music that you have not heard of but are curious to find out what it might sound like. Close your eyes and listen – use headphones
if you prefer. Let yourself get lost in the journey of the sound and get into the groove of the music/song without bias as to the genre, lyrics or
artist.

Simply listen to the sounds around you. Don’t think of what music or sound it is – just let yourself absorb and experience the sound.

The types of music that are good for meditation are recordings of the sounds of nature such as ocean waves, streams and birdsong. Natural
sounds are soothing and less catchy than actual music, so your mind is less likely to latch on to it and distract you. Natural recordings help relax your
mind and body, allowing you to enter a state of deep calm and inner peace that meditation brings. Meditating while you hear nature’s sounds is pretty close to the practice of meditation in the old days.

Listening to music has many benefits—so many, in fact, that music is being used a branch of medicine known as music therapy. You can
play soothing new-age music, classical music, or another type of slow-tempo music to feel calming effects, and make it an exercise in mindfulness by really focusing on the sound and vibration of each note and the feelings that the music brings up within you. If other thoughts creep into your head,
congratulate yourself for noticing, and gently bring your attention back to the current moment and the music you are hearing.

In closing

Of all the exercises, mindful breathing is the beginning. We need to get centered and to remain centered. Grandpa said we all have to breath.
We do it daily, anyway. The other exercises will fall into place much easier once we understand the true meaning of breathing.

If we all follow my Grandpa’s and that other guy’s (Thich Nhat Hanh) advice, we can begin to understand ourselves just a little better.
Did you have a Zen master in your life that you may not have recognized at the time? Most of us do, at one point or another.

As always, feel free to share your Zen master, or if you have any comments, questions, or information please post.

Walking the Path of Peace,

Sanders

sanders@relaxationandmeditation.com

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One thought on “Daily mindfulness exercises like my Grandpa did

  1. Jan

    April 12, 2018 at 10:05am

    Hi, Sanders!

    I have been interested in Mindfulness the last couple of years and I think your Grandpa sums it up really great in the “Son, just breath. It’s all we need to do”.

    Something I like to do to get in a sort of mindfulness is to use books where you can color different patterns etc. I feel my mind gets really focused on coloring and it feels good after.

    What do you feel about playing music that’s labeled as “relax” music?

    Regards, Jan

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      Sanders Whitley

      April 12, 2018 at 1:08pm

      Jan
      Thanks for the comments. I know a lot of people who use the intricate coloring books and all agree with you.
      The relax music is key for me. I can clear my head quicker with something to focus on and during work I play different binuaral beats music to stay productive.
      Try coloring and relaxing music together. I’d be interested in how it works out.
      Sanders

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  2. Jeanette

    April 12, 2018 at 10:21am

    I really loved your site. The content was easy and enjoyable to read. I love your story, I would have loved to meet your grandpa. Sounds like my kind of guy! I’ve been needing to meditate for stress management, you just might have given me the boost I needed to begin. Thank you

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      Sanders Whitley

      April 12, 2018 at 1:01pm

      Jeannette
      Glad to hear that I have you interested in mediation. Stress can be a difficult situation and I do suggest seeing a professional. If it is just the normal day to day grind, taking some me time is best.
      If I can help, let me know.
      My Grandpa would have enjoyed meeting you. He was a outgoing and giving man.
      Take care
      Sanders

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  3. Matt

    April 12, 2018 at 10:46am

    Exactly what the doctor ordered, especially with all the stressors in our lives.

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  4. Manny

    April 12, 2018 at 12:19pm

    I am getting more and more overwhelmed with the political situation on the planet – do you reckon such meditation is helpful in these situations or is it just for general stress relief?

    Thanks for your response!

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      Sanders Whitley

      April 12, 2018 at 12:53pm

      Hi Manny
      I think for general stress relief. I hope the political leaders and their advisers do step back, breath and take the time to concentrate on what is really important.
      Thanks for the thought.
      Sanders

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  5. Heather Plude

    April 12, 2018 at 2:56pm

    Great post – I meditate every day. I’d be lost without it. It’s great that you have such fond memories of your Grandpa – we are lucky to have had the time we did with them and once in a while remember what they taught us. Many blessings – and thanks for the reminder to JUST BREATHE!

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      Sanders Whitley

      April 12, 2018 at 6:41pm

      Heather,
      Glad to hear that you are meditating daily. I was and still am fond of Grandpa. He passed in the early 70’s but I can still see and hear him.
      Thanks for the Blessings and the kind words.
      Sanders

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  6. John

    April 12, 2018 at 5:05pm

    Sanders,
    Having a water feature to listen to when you are relaxing is great. I had a pond with a fountain that I would sit next to to just let my inner self meditate. Now I just use nature when I can get outside, just let the birds sign me into my happy place. In the winter I try to find the right kind of music, it is often hard.
    John

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      Sanders Whitley

      April 12, 2018 at 6:37pm

      John,
      Couple of ideas for you. Get a indoor water fountain . Usually they are table to size, but you can get bigger. The right kind of music is a real adventure in itself. Sample the different nature and natural sounds music videos on youtube and all the other types available. There are some amazing products available. I personally enjoy walking and dislike wearing earbuds or a headphone, so I listen to a lot of nature sounds, when I can get the kids to be quiet.
      Sanders

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